I’m Lisa and I am a 65-year-old single woman who is enjoying everything life has to offer in New York City! After leaving a 25-year career in HR, I truly learned that life is truly wonderful when we really take the time to explore the things that brings us joy. I spend my days coaching, being creative, making art and making jewelry, dancing and truly accepting who I have become, having fun and enjoying every minute of it.
I have not always felt this way about myself and rarely used to acknowledge the things that I love.
Growing up in a suburb of New York City, most of the time I conformed to what was expected of me and forgot about what really resonated with me. I became withdrawn and did not express my feelings. Most of the time, I was the mediator for the family, barely holding it together. Sound familiar? I stopped being myself as I really didn’t know who I truly was! I desperately tried to express myself at every opportunity, however, I was criticized when I tried to express my feelings. Over time, this started to wear me down and I became depressed. At the time, I didn’t even know I was depressed and just went through the motions of life. Not fun at all!
I lived most of my adult life like this – lost, confused, depressed, and unexpressed.
In 2007, I found myself in an unhealthy relationship. Things started to become worse and I was not happy as I realized I was repeating my childhood experiences. As an adult, and after some therapy, I realized, I did not want this kind of relationship any more.
My journey towards my own happiness started when I began working with a coach and found it very powerful. I started to learn how to really express myself and what qualities I truly wanted in my relationship. It was a very difficult relationship that I finally ended in 2012. I was a whole new person, for the better, at the end of the relationship. I was ready to move on! What I learned in coaching was that people show up in our lives to teach us something. I learned a lot from this challenging relationship that I wouldn’t change at all!
While all of this was going on, my elderly parents moved into a senior residence in 2010. Since my brother lives on the other side of the country, the responsibility fell on me alone. I felt very alone and overwhelmed most of the time.
During this same period of time, my body started to react and I was in pain. Despite this, I pushed myself and kept going and going like the energizer bunny! Except I had no more energy. I had to seek medical help. This taught me how to SLOW DOWN and listen to my own body! I am still learning and it’s not as easy as you think, however, I have made great progress!
While caretaking my parents, I started to make time to get back to doing things I loved. As a teen growing up, I was told my highest potential was in the artistic area. At the time, I told myself that I could not make a living being artistic so I ignored it. It took me all this time to finally acknowledge my creative side. I enrolled in some art courses and some jewelry making classes. When I was “making” art or making jewelry, my true self came out and I was able to forget about my worries. It was a great respite for me!
In 2011 my Dad passed away and then my Mom in 2015. Before she passed, I wrote my mother a “Gratitude letter”. I told her all the things that I enjoyed about her and I’m glad I did this before she passed away. I felt no guilt and completely at peace with her. After my Mom passed away, despite the sadness I felt, I was able to think a little bit of what I wanted for myself and my life. To my surprise, I also felt some sense of “freedom” (which is normal). I learned how to accept the sadness and was able to see both sides of my parents, the positive side and the negative side. They did the best they could in raising me. Now, it is up to me to move forward!
Over the past two years, my life has completely opened up. Since I had such a positive experience with my first coach, I decided to find another coach, a life coach, however, this time I was at a different stage of my life. I read self-help books, took workshops and online coaching. I learned how to help myself and started to do some research on coaching programs for me to become a coach. I knew I always wanted to help people in some way but never found the best way.
Now, that I am a coach and it feels so genuine to me! I am still doing my art, making jewelry, dancing and now I am much more expressive and fearless in my life! I am moving towards more joy, pleasures and happiness each and every day!
So now it’s your turn!
If you are a woman over 50 at a transition point in your life, I would be honored to help share my tools, coaching expertise, and experience to help you feel lighter, freer, happier, and more YOU! Ready to get started with a complimentary session? Contact me today!
- Certified Professional Coach (CPC) through an accredited institution, The Institute for the Professional Excellence of Coaching (IPEC)
- Certified Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP)
- Member of International Coach Federation
- 25 Years in Human Resources
Fun Facts About Lisa!
Dancing has been and still is a part of my life since 1985 as I have developed, flourished and spread my wings as a person in so many ways! The attached video was taken at the Sock Hop Sundays located at the Iguana Café in Manhattan, 240 West 54th Street between 8th Avenue and Broadway. I have made several good friends, male and female and it is a great and fun way to exercise! I even did a few performances in the past. The last one I danced to was “Rock Around the Clock” by Bill Haley and I love this song! That’s why I chose to dance to this song on my web site. I encourage you to find some activity or hobby that gives you as much pleasure as dancing gives me.
A few years ago, “The Ink Pad” crafts store moved right across the street from me, which was dangerous as I frequented it often! They offered some courses in stamping, greeting cards and collages in journal writing. I was immediately hooked! I was going through a rough time in life, taking care of my elderly Mom and this was a fantastic escape for me! When I am involved with creating, all my “problems” disappear, or as I like to reframe them as “opportunities” that assist me to change to be the type of woman I desire. At the same time, I also learned how to bead, make jewelry. I also feel that I have accomplished something beautiful and that I am proud to show my friends and family. So here goes: